The Lives Of Cross Dressers In Nigeria

Nmesoma Okwudili


March 25, 2024

It’s common knowledge that cross-dressers and other members of the LGBTQ+ community have not been welcomed by Nigerian cultural and societal norms. Even though cross-dressing has long been accepted as a regular aspect of Nigerian society, many members of this community continue to experience significant harassment and retaliation.

 Abuja Area Mama, a prominent figure within the LGBTQ+ community, recently divulged personal details about herself and shed light on the experiences of other LGBTQ+ individuals in an interview. The ongoing hardships and obstacles faced by LGBTQ+ people in Nigeria were highlighted in this discussion, as they seek for greater acceptance and advocacy for their rights.

During his interview, Abuja Area Mama boldly declared himself as the premier cross-dressing prostitute in Abuja, a statement that undoubtedly stirred controversy. He recounted his journey of self-discovery, revealing that he recognized his attraction towards men from as early as the age of 10, as women failed to captivate his interest. This revelation sheds light on the deeply ingrained nature of sexual orientation, emphasizing that it often emerges at a young age and is beyond an individual’s control.

Even though many Nigerian men publicly reject the LGBTQ+ community, Abuja Area Mama revealed a startling irony: a large portion of these same guys covertly use him as a male prostitute. This paradox highlights the shame and hypocrisy that surround LGBTQ+ people in Nigeria. It also draws attention to the pervasiveness of double standards and hypocrisy, which occur when people publicly denounce certain actions but engage in them in private.

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 “na only men dey knack me , I no dey knack women. E get time wey be say  I dey meet customers very well, like 10 men a day”

After examining this matter, the predominant question arises in the minds of many: who are the individuals engaging in sexual relations with gay men in Nigeria? It’s a perplexing query given that society often expresses repugnance towards their lifestyle and sexuality. This prompts a deeper exploration into the paradox of condemnation coexisting with clandestine actions. It calls for an examination of societal norms, the complexity of human behavior, and the implications of hypocrisy within cultural attitudes towards LGBTQ+ individuals.

“when some of them dey knack me and they discover I be man, some of them go stop det knack me, while some of them go continue dey knack me , while some go discover oo, but dey go finish knacking me before dey go dey tell me say I be man”

Many were incensed by the remarks made during the interview, expressing frustration over why individuals like the interviewee seem to evade arrest in Nigeria, a departure from past practices. Some even pointed out a disturbing trend: those tasked with enforcing the law are allegedly engaging with the very people they should be apprehending.

Amidst the discussion, a social media activist known as Very Dark Man surfaced on the internet, publicly challenging the Nigerian police to detain the well-known crossdresser, Bobrisky. This individual audaciously claims that there would be no chance of such an arrest, noting the pervasive rumors that powerful people, particularly those in positions of authority, have covert links with Bobrisky. It’s hinted that Bobrisky might become untouchable in the eyes of the police if his arrest makes these illegal relationships public knowledge.

He declared his intent to persist in criticizing both the Nigerian police and senators, alleging that Bobrisky facilitates the provision of young boys for them to engage in sexual activities. Furthermore, he publicly referenced legislation purportedly violated by individuals associated with cross-dressing and the LGBTQ+ community in Nigeria.

 “being a cross dresser does not break any part of the law, but let me take you to the part of the law Bobrisky breaks”

The law read “A person who registers, operates or participate in gay  clubs, societies, and  organization or directly or indirectly makes public show of same sex amorous relationship in Nigeria commits an offence and is liable on conviction to a term of 10 years imprisonment”

He fearlessly confronts the Nigerian police, demanding transparency regarding who shields Bobrisky from legal repercussions and why he remains unarrested despite alleged violations of laws and the constitution that govern the nation.

The scenario highlights structural problems with Nigerian governance and law enforcement and suggests a possible relationship between impunity, influence, and power. Strong adjustments are required going ahead to guarantee accountability and the fair administration of legislation. Restoring public confidence in institutions requires anti-corruption initiatives, independent scrutiny, and transparency policies.

Moreover, combating prejudice against marginalized groups like the LGBTQ+ community requires establishing a culture of respect for human rights and inclusivity. In the end, promoting a just and equitable society where everyone is treated fairly and equitably under the law requires unwaveringly defending the rule of law.



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